Boundaries

This past weekend I attended a celebration event for a friend who is 57, has multiple sclerosis and just completed her degree in counseling. What an achievement!!! In talking with her she talked about all the things she had to limit during the journey. Housecleaning, volunteer work, participation in social events (so she could maintain her limited energy level for study) and working in her flower garden. With her accomplishment she can now return to more of those things she has missed in the past 4 years.

At that same event I reconnected with a couple I had not seen in years. As they told me about their six children, we discussed all the demands placed on a family with so many children. When the subject of sports came up, the wife said, “We told the children that they would not be able to participate in organized sports until they could do so in a public school setting (i.e. middle school).” She went on to say that they encouraged them to play in the yard and get involved with pick up games in the neighborhood, but that they knew it would be a nightmare to have all six involved in almost daily practices and then a weekend full of sporting events with one parent going one way and another parent taking children to another event.

Each of these individuals knew that they needed to set boundaries to accomplish what was most important to them-and not have the juggling elephants routine as an individual or a family. What about you? Are you wanting to undertake some new venture but not sure how you can with ALL you have currently going on? Maybe you are trying to recover some relationship time with a child, spouse or friend. In either case, maybe you need to set some boundaries. Remember… there are no shortage of acts for the circus. Only you can limit what goes into your lineup.

Comments

[Anonymous]

Perhaps the most difficult to plan the day a truly run planning. If big companies with people dedicated exclusively to implement its strategies have difficulty implementing them mind you.
Perhaps what prevents us more is the lack of spirit, which is something interesting, that we may be slaughtered in the morning, but after we listen to music or we take a cup of coffee we can motivate ourselves and actually perform many tasks.
What will be the presenter sees the circus in the mirror to get ready for the show that motivates and inspires, even when he is sad? And lets go to the arena and run a good show.
We must all find ways to cheer us up to go to battle the execution of our strategies and our planning. Is it something we read before we propose to perform a task, something to get started in our brain, we will be more productive? Or if we meditate for a few minutes? Or listen to a song we like with earphones at maximum volume of the MP3 player? Or if we talk with our co-workers for a few minutes?
If we can do what we propose. We need not be afraid of asking ourselves if we do the right thing at the end of the day because the answer is certainly yes, or at worst a rather incomplete. yes
Hugs
Gilberto Hessel Jr

gilbertohessel@yahoo.com.br